Hello my dear readers.

I had another blog on the way. But then I watched Maa Behen (available on Netflix) and I just had to stop and write this. Right now. Because some things cannot wait for the next scheduled post.

As you all know, I am a woman. I have my own opinions and thoughts. And I have been at tables where I was asked not to give an opinion, raise a voice, to be quiet, to be silent, simply because I am a woman.

So this blog is for every male who has ever tried to silence me.

Happy news. You never succeeded.

As a woman, our entire world is built to be centric to men. Think about it. As a girl, you are a daughter and your world revolves around your father. Then society decides you have reached a marriageable age and you get married, and it will revolve around the husband.

And then apparently I have a biological clock to worry about. A legacy to continue. A family to grow. OMG.

And once that chapter begins, the pressure does not stop until a son is born. Because somehow that is still the goal for some people. And then the woman becomes a mother and now the son becomes the world. How wonderful!

Tell me, still you think world is not centric to man?

And yet, that same man will be possessive about you, because that is how he feels entitled, as the head of the family.
As a woman of the house, we are still not allowed to ask questions. We cannot make them feel accountable, and they cannot take accountability for themselves either. We cannot raise our voice or share a concern. And the moment we do, we are shut down.

That is why when someone asks me why I have strong opinions, why I do not just get married and settled, what they are really asking is why my world is not revolving around a man. And I find that very telling.

They say we as woman attention. We make them angry. We do this, we do that. But really, is it us? Or have we been so thoroughly gaslit and manipulated into thinking the problem is us, that we have started to believe it?

Yes, the world is changing. I hear the whispers about male loneliness. I see the shifts happening.
And I am not against men. I want to be very clear about that.

What I am against is not having my own choice.
My own freedom. My own opinion. My own timeline. My own wish to want what I want without having to justify it to anyone.

This society was built around men. It has been about men for a very long time. And it is time, as women, that we choose our own timelines. Work around ourselves. Do what we want. Live how we want.

And no matter which male chauvinist shows up trying to silence you, I dare you to roar like a lioness.
Because remember, in the pride, it is the lioness who hunts.
It is the lioness who brings food. It is the lioness who keeps everything going. And she does it all on her own terms.

So No. Do not agree to things just because society says this is how it is. That society was written for by a another men.

Write your own world.

Happy International Women’s Day to my readers.

As we celebrate the empowerment of women, I have realised something: if you are ambitious, a dreamer, an achiever, and someone who wants more from life, you must also learn to be comfortable being disliked. People’s opinions are often just noise….not your reality.

When I was in school, I often saw the idea that being liked by everyone was important. From a young age, we are taught to maintain harmony, to adjust, and to be agreeable. Slowly, that idea becomes part of your identity.

We start believing that being liked by everyone is a sign of success. We begin craving attention and approval. Over time, it becomes ingrained in us to be liked by most people.

But as I grew up, I realised that given my personality, being liked by everyone was never going to be realistic. And honestly, it shouldn’t be the goal either.

There will always be people who misunderstand you, judge you, or feel uncomfortable with your confidence, your boundaries, or your ambition. Sometimes people will question your choices simply because they are different from their own.

And that is okay.

As women, especially ambitious women, we are often expected to soften our edges to make others comfortable. We are told to speak less, demand less, and dream within acceptable limits. But the moment you step outside that box, criticism follows.

And if your mindset is like a diamond…congratulations…you will need stronger filters. Also, not everyone can afford a diamond.

The truth is, growth often comes with discomfort…not just for you, but for the people around you. When you start choosing yourself, protecting your peace, and building a life that aligns with your values, some people may not understand it.

And that is part of the journey.

Being disliked is not always a sign that you are doing something wrong. Sometimes it simply means you are no longer shrinking yourself to fit into spaces that were never meant for you.

Harmony is beautiful. But harmony that costs your peace is expensive.

Learning the art of being disliked is really about learning the art of being authentic. It means standing by your values even when others disagree. It means trusting your path even when it looks different from everyone else’s.

So if someone thinks you are too ambitious, too independent, too opinionated, or too different…take it as a compliment.

Because sometimes being disliked simply means you stopped abandoning yourself to make others comfortable.